Life On The Singles’ Island Is a Life Worth Exploring

I like writing and reading satyrical articles, especially the ones which focus on dating and romance. When you read of someones unfulfilling experience, you gain a feeling of solidarity towards your fellow comrades in the battle called “happily ever after” . After being single for the first 3 years, you gain the new perspective on when to stop taking life too seriously. While each of us are perpetually wrestling our egos about whether we should take rejection personally or how many texts does one deserve in a week, life goes on and going out solo seems not such a bad idea after all.

After being single for the first 3 years, you gain the new perspective on when to stop taking life too seriously.

It might not be adaptable for everyone. Being single is an interesting concept. Many women choose abusive relationships rather than venturing out out on their own in search for something more fulfilling. It’s a risk everybody has to take, yet most of us don’t commit to taking this step because of the fear of unknown. I had a choice.

When my last serious boyfriend sheepishly announced that he wants to sleep with other girls, I was heart broken. I could have stayed in this casual “see where it takes us” tug of war, or I could move on and have a real shot at my happiness. Ironically 3 years later, he ended up in a committed relationships and I ended up dateless on the Saturday night. Lesson learned: if a guy suggests he doesn’t want exclusivity – it means he doesn’t want exclusivity with you. No amount of time or conquests will change this. But there were also other things.

With time I grew more comfortable and essentially happier being single than having to sacrifice my dignity to facilitate the need for companionship. In spirituality it’s called talking control of your own life. Did I manage ok? Absolutely not.

In my previous post I would explore different mini stories of my chance encounters with guys and how well it didn’t go. In the process of analysis, one thing became more evident than ever – in dating you take the leap of faith and no matter what, the joke is always on you and you may as well laugh at it. I fell for a street photographer who was rude to me once. I went out with a guy who called himself prince on the night I met him and who tricked me into paying for the whole dinner. For some it may sound tragic, for me it’s just a moment in time like everything else.

We must work on our inner conflicts if we wish for anything good for us to happen. How can we have successful relationships if we expect never to be hurt or have any arguments? What’s a good make up without a good fight right?

By making conscious observations after each failed relationship, I began noticing certain patterns, moments when it all went downhill, times when I fell for the wrong guy, moments when I let my ego overshadow my personality, moments when I knew it’s time to stop fighting, yet I continued. You can read all the books on dating in the world, when it comes to real life, it’s all about staying true to yourself, and if you don’t know who you are and what you want from your relationships, you can’t be fulfilled. Those who can’t do – teach, those who can – do.

Being single isn’t a curse, being single is really a blessing in disguise, because in the long run, the best relationship you can ever have is the relationship with yourself. 

Life On The Singles’ Island Is a Life Worth Exploring

One thought on “Life On The Singles’ Island Is a Life Worth Exploring

  1. Bridges that fall out from underneath your car fail. Tires that blow out on the highway also fail. Buildings that collapse under their own weight fail as well. These are all failures. Relationships have lifespans. Some get to the letter G or M or T and so on. Some are unalphabetical. Anyway, it’s just a less fraught way of looking at things, and can give a sense of relief, a lightness, as one might a bright green or orange helium balloon that’s been carried around all day and then suddenly slips from one’s fingers.

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